I was watching Bruce Springsteen on 60 Minutes a few weeks ago, and really listened to the lyrics of his song "Baby we were born to run."
A story of the young working class rebelling against the 'runaway American dream." Tramps like them had an inherit right to and were born to run. They will likely grow up into respectable young working class families, with good values and an understanding of their own children's needs to rebel. They will become soccer moms or coaching Dads. There might be a few more tattoos and piercings, and their careers might have taken a sideways turn, but they will make it through.
And so I look at my own daughter and realise it is no different to what my Miss M is going through. She has taken a sideways turn. She is defending her right to run. But there will come a time when she will try to slip herself back into the society that I mandate she conform to, the society that we currently live in. There will be a few faded tattoos and a few piercing scars, but she is a good, strong young woman and the values that she has grown up with are still there and they are still shining through.
None of this is of any help to anyone who is currently going through this, and it wouldn't have helped me when we entered this trajectory four years ago. It is overwhelming. It is scary. I was terrified that it was a permanent condition, or that it could possibly get worse. Of course, for some, it will, but our story stopped at a mere rebellion against education and conformity.
But my Miss M is on her road to recovery. Luckily her rebellion drew a line that she didn't cross. Nothing that she can't come back from. And, if I'm to be honest, probably not a lot different to where I was 20 years ago.
Above all else though, we still like each other. :-)
Love you, Miss M!! xo